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as someone who also just graduated, i feel you and in my experience feeling "stuck" stems from a) an ambiguity of reference frame and b) a larger space of actions one can take. getting unstuck requires a perspective shift on (b)

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"there’s a specific kind of support i have in mind, one that is open and friendly but also analytical and skeptical"

this reminds me of https://www.visakanv.com/blog/late/ and his idea of "gentle persistent curiosity"

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i think people inhibit themselves from JustAsk and JustTell because they treat good/bad as binary. i.e. if a friend is annoying me but it's very low stakes and asks if what they're doing is annoying, i'll probably say "no". it would be nice if we can all agree on a gradation system ("yeah you're being 10% annoying") LOL

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