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alex's avatar

this was very helpful to read, ty for posting

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vincent huang's avatar

YAY i'm glad :)

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Aadil's avatar

i really liked this ty for sharing

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Anvita's avatar

I think scheduling is a kind of stress response.

When you know what you want and why you want it, it transforms your being in a way that's more effective than scheduling. Without that the schedules -- 5-530 ashtanga! 530-6 look at fashion influencers -- tend to fall apart.

so I agree with L that the feelings work is crucial

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elizabeth's avatar

ty for sharing!

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> V: okay, i think you’re always busy so i shouldn’t bother you

L: right, so you will often ask something like “are you busy right now?” and if you notice yourself repeatedly encountering this busyness story then you can instead ask a question like “how true is it that you’re always busy?” to engage at the story level instead of the interaction level

over time i've learned to ask this! tho sometimes if i really need someone's time a hack i use is "is now a bad time to talk?" reframing it has helped if it's urgent. and also, adding "don't worry it's a good thing" to speak on the subject of the conversation i want to hold, it helps calms nerve esp. if i am the lead/boss of someone else's work for a project

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Meta-Pensées's avatar

Efficient information exchange is a critical optimization problem. Human conversation often operates at ~10% signal-to-noise ratio, with key insights buried under social protocol and tangential details. This creates significant cognitive overhead and time waste.

Traditional 1:1 synchronous communication (meetings, calls) compounds this inefficiency by:

Forcing real-time processing of low-value information

Adding context-switching costs

Preventing parallel processing of multiple conversations

Solution space: Moving to asynchronous, high-compression communication channels allows for:

Faster iteration cycles

Better signal extraction

Optimal time allocation

The goal: Maximize bits of useful information transferred per unit time while minimizing cognitive overhead.

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